Wildman BreakThrough Session Details

Below is an outline of the individual sessions, which will be personalized to your specific needs.

Session 1     

Ninja Moves for Relating Authentically

Learn how to use somatic tools to connect more deeply with yourself and authentic relating tools to connect more deeply with others. We begin the Wildman BreakThrough Journey with some essential relational tools. We start by using tools of somatic awareness that allow us to stay connected to ourselves and present to our internal felt experience while also being present, emotionally available, and attuned to the experience of others. This session alone can transform your relationships, as these tools have transformed mine. The tools combine Boulder Integral Center Authentic Relating tools, Stephen Busby Higher Consciousness work, and NVC (Non-Violent Communication) tools. You will leave the session feeling seen, heard, connected and very much alive and expanded. This allows the Wildman in you to emerge. And you will have the tools to take into your relationships, your careers, and to the projects that matter to you.

Session 3     

Healing the Mother Wound

Mother is ideally supposed to be the safe Feminine, who welcomes us warmly, with care, and shows us that we are deeply loved. When this doesn’t happen, the Mother Wound leaves an indelible mark on a man and predisposes us to experiencing the darker aspects of the feminine. The Mother Wound can also condition us to rely too heavily on women for our unmet emotional needs, setting up a toxic dynamic in relationships. I personally grew up with a mother who, bless her heart, carried unhealed past and current trauma, causing a deep attachment wound in me that has played out in many ways with women, from fear of intimacy to getting into abusive and addictive relationships, to fear of commitment. I’ve worked my tools around these issues for the past 20 years and have made a lot of progress, and I’m still actively working this around each new turn of the wheel. I’ve also held spaced for men to begin to heal the neglect, rejection, abandonment, engulfment, abuse, and other varieties of the Mother Wound.  Learn powerful tools so we can feel cared for, so we can trust, and so we can relate to women in a healthy way. Working the Mother Wound allows us to begin to trust the feminine and our masculine in new ways that create more connection.

Session 4     

Healing the Father Wound

Father is supposed to be the safe masculine…a man who we feel secure with, and is safe for us…who teaches us how to be a man and shows us how to be when we’re out in the world. When our father is absent, like my birth father, or abusive, like my early stepfather, or neglectful or unsafe or unavailable in a variety of ways, we get very confused messages about our worth and about how to make our way in the world. When Father shows up as the wounded man that he is, this has a very real impact on us. And yet, even when we do not have an ideal Father, we can still become amazing men…but it takes metabolizing the unmet needs in our nervous system and transforming the symptoms of our Father Wound into powerful clarity about who we are. Learn how to work with the Father Wound so you can increase your self-esteem and feel confident to make your way in the world...accept or become the man that is possible for you to be.

Session 5     

Nurturing the Inner Child

Independent of working the Mother Wound and the Father Wound, we can use a powerful body of tools to help us nurture and heal the Hurt Little Boy within, who holds our unmet needs. This allows us to begin to feel safe, to feel connected, to feel valued, to live joyfully, and be an adult in relationships, instead of a boy or an adolescent. Stop unconsciously pulling the women in your life into mothering roles or the men in your life into fathering roles. Stop letting the unmet needs of your inner child or inner teen hijack your life. Rise above the neediness of your Little Boy or the knee-jerk rebelliousness of your Inner Teen.  No one teaches us this stuff in school…it’s a specialized field that most people find only when their lives and relationships are suffering and their partners are threatening to leave or their life is in shambles. Don’t wait to have a  BreakDown, like I did 15 years ago…instead, actively cultivate a BreakThrough. Learn how to find, feel, and nurture your inner child so that you can be a powerful, emotionally stable man whose presence blesses others in your life.

Session 6     

Balancing our Inner Masculine and Inner Feminine Dynamics

The advanced work of men’s work is learning to balance the masculine and feminine within. Much pain in this world comes from men who have suppressed the natural yin within…that safe, loving energy that appreciates beauty, honors vulnerability, and holds space for others. Testosterone is powerful energy, and tempering it with a deep connection to our inner yin makes the world a safer place for everyone. We will work somatically to make a distinction between the felt sense of your inner yin and your inner yang and we will practice cycling loving energy between the two. This creates a flow of love in the body and fills up our heart space. It brings us great inner strength and a deep sense of feeling loved and cared for, which has many benefits in our relationships and in our careers. Learning how to work with yin energy in your own body also illuminates for you the experience of women better, because alot of women often work in this energy field. The decisions they make from the yin place confuse alot of men who don't spend enough time in their own yin. To become a elationship ninja, your yin is required.

Session 7     

The Power of Being in Mission and On Purpose

Being in mission and on purpose is like connecting a pair of jumper cables to a powerful battery. We are gifted with energy and vitality, enabling us to walk through initiations, at times with little sleep, from my experience, and still function at higher performance than expected. Being in mission is like eating food, drinking water, breathing air, or being in nature. It sources us. We will work to identify how to live our mission in the world, effectively, while staying connected to our Wildman Energy.

BONUS SESSION     Fri-Sun Aug 14-16, 2020

Connecting to the earth and each other at our Wildman Gathering

Those who enroll in the Individual BreakThrough Program and who choose to attend the 2020 Wildman Gathering will gather up at least once at our live Wildman Gathering Retreat near Asheville, NC to connect and celebrate our work.  The optional annual Wildman Gathering is the most exciting, cutting-edge men’s work available. Join us to experience a series of elemental Earth/Air/Fire/Water initiations, such as shamanic breathwork journeys, firewalks, and immersive water initiations. These high intensity experiences are designed to get us feeling deeply connected to the earth, our brothers, and ourselves. This brings a sense of belonging, empowerment, and inner well-being.