WILDMAN BreakThrough
Cultivate a CONNECTED and EMPOWERED Life
Watch our 6 min video explaining our Wildman Gathering
Intense Experiences & Cutting Edge Tools That Create:
HEALTHY MASCULINITY
CONNECTION to MEN & WOMEN
CLARITY of PURPOSE
FREEDOM of EXPRESSION
VITALITY & PERSONAL POWER
EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING
Which WILDMAN BreakThrough Journey is Right for You?
7TH Annual WILDMAN GATHERING (Aug 14-16th, 2020)
- A 3 day Earth/Air/Fire/Water Wildman Initiation Aug 14-16, 2020 near Asheville, NC
- The most exciting and transformative men's adventure on the planet!
Live ONLINE GROUP EXPERIENCE (June 24-Aug 5, 2020)
- 7 weeks of highly interactive live online course sessions with a small community of amazing men
- Enroll NOW for this summer 2020 live online course (Weds 7-8:30pm)
Individual BREAKTHROUGH PROGRAM (Begin Now)
- 7 weeks of web-based Somatic BreakThrough facilitation sessions to repattern how you hold your POWER and how you CONNECT to others
- Engaging digital courseware & one-on-one facilitated BreakThrough sessions that you can begin NOW
Schedule a Free 25 min Phone Call with a Wildman Facilitator to Discuss your Options
Our 7th annual Wildman Gathering live event is Aug 14-16 2020.
Watch this 3 minute video to hear from men in our amazing community
Important 2020 Dates for the Wildman Gathering and Online Course:
NOW: Enrollment available for the Wildman Breakthrough Individual Coaching Program and for the separate Online Course
WEDNESDAYS JULY 24-AUG 5, 2020: Wildman BreakThrough Online Course 7-8:30pm CT
THURS AUG 13, 2020 at 7am: Optional carpool and caravan leaves from Kansas City for 11 hr drive to Asheville, NC, for KC locals interested in joining
FRI-SUN AUG 14-16, 2020: Wildman Gathering near Asheville, NC
MON AUG 19, 2020: Optional Wildman Caving adventure near Asheville, NC
TUES AUG 20, 2020: Optional carpool and caravan back to Kansas City
The Healthy Wildman
The healthy Wildman is a powerful, healing archetypal energy that a man has access to when he feels safe, connected, and empowered. When a man has unmet emotional needs around one of these areas, his life will show symptoms of these unmet needs.
These are a few symptoms of unmet needs:
Insecurity Anxiety Fear Isolation Playing Small Defendedness Rage Shame Addiction Loneliness Regret Mistrust Relationship Issues Sadness
Find your unmet emotional needs and you will find a path to effective personal transformation!
To feel SECURE, men need 3 essential things:
SAFETY-CONNECTION-POWER
- SAFETY: Physical, emotional, and spiritual
- CONNECTION: To the earth, to his environment, to people around him, and most of all, to himself
- POWER: Able to handle what life brings to him without collapsing into shame or overcompensation
When a man's early family environment and life circumstances interfered with getting any of these essential needs met, then his behavior as an adult will display symptoms of an unmet need. The Wildman Breakthrough addresses these fundamentals.
With any of our Wildman programs, you'll experience powerfully facilitated experiences that cultivate a state of deep safety, connection, and empowerment so that your Wildman energy can flow freely.
A man in touch with his Wildman is deeply connected to nature and to himself.
He belongs in this world and he knows it in his bones.
He feels safe.
He feels connected to Mother Earth, to other men, to women, and most of all, to himself.
This brings him great courage.
This alignment allows him to show up in an authentic way, with his full power and sovereignty.
And this brings him great freedom.
Wounded Masculinity
Unfortunately, our western society doesn't support this kind of power and sovereignty. Our cultural and family conditioning get in the way. Family, school, careers, and society all attempt to domesticate us and diminish our powerful masculinity. Those in authority often try to inhibit our full range of options and make us feel disconnected, guilty, and ashamed, so that we become easier to control or easier to sell products to. Our "leaders" rarely encourage us to claim our full power. The authority figures in our lives...parents, teachers, and well-meaning adults are themselves captives of a civilization overflowing with wounded, toxic masculinity. They perpetuate the patriarchy and often shut us down in our earliest attempts to stand up for what is right. And then we turn around and do it to our own kids.
Most men never learn how to channel our masculinity in healthy ways. We learn from a very young age to hold back, to play small, and to not shine too brightly, or else risk being humiliated. Or worse, we adopt the overcompensatory strategies of toxic masculinity, and we lose our authenticity or our depth and we become unsafe for others.
As we get older, the peers we grow up with usually shame us in similar ways to how they were shamed at home. We get it from all sides...
All this shame and effort to contain our free spirit and wild nature costs us dearly. Our health, our passion, and our vitality all suffer when we dim our light and hold back the genius that resides within.
A Solution
Accessing your Wildman is a way to recover your sovereignty and connect to a place within you that is already healed. When you learn how to presence yourself from this healthy masculine, rather than from the wounded masculine or the limits of your conditioning, your options expand. Such work brings tremendous personal power that we can use to say no to the things that don't serve us and to instead live a life that is meaningful for our unique path.
This Wildman BreakThrough provides the tools needed for such men's work. This course addresses the most common pitfalls that get in the way of accessing your Wildman energy. This unique, one-of-a-kind offering is not available anywhere else on the planet. It is the result of nearly three decades of intense inner work and facilitation training combining men's work, BreakThrough work, family of origin work, attachment work, inner child work, somatic voice dialogue, shamanic breathwork, bioenergetic processes, Jungian shadow work, gender reconciliation, radical self-love, and authentic relating tools.
It really is possible for you to heal the cultural conditioning and personal family wounds that keep you feeling disconnected and disempowered, so that you can begin to give your full gifts to the world.
The WILDMAN BreakThrough INDIVIDUAL COACHING PROGRAM features:
- 7 powerful sessions of one-on-one virtual BreakThrough coaching with a highly-trained facilitator
- Structured processes designed to cultivate emotional BreakThroughs
- A journey-like feel to the sessions and to the entire coaching experience
- A digital course with 14 hours of video-based BreakThrough training, featuring real men doing vulnerable work
- A playful culture led by a facilitator who is an adventurer/teacher/storyteller/listener/friend as well as a committed coach who has your back...especially when you don't
- Audio and video recordings available for each session, if you choose to record them
- An opportunity to join us at our 7th Annual Wildman Gathering near Asheville, NC Aug 14-16, 2020 at a discounted rate ($490 additional cost...Save $100!)
Wildman BreakThrough Session Details
Below is an outline of the GROUP ONLINE COURSE. The INDIVIDUAL COACHING PROGRAM follows the same path, but will be customized to your specific needs.
Session 1 Weds June 24, 2020
Ninja Moves for Relating Authentically
Learn how to use somatic tools to connect more deeply with yourself and authentic relating tools to connect more deeply with others. We begin the Wildman BreakThrough Journey with some essential relational tools. We start by using tools of somatic awareness that allow us to stay connected to ourselves and present to our internal felt experience while also being present, emotionally available, and attuned to the experience of others. This session alone can transform your relationships, as these tools have transformed mine. The tools combine Boulder Integral Center Authentic Relating tools, Stephen Busby Higher Consciousness work, and NVC (Non-Violent Communication) tools. You will leave the session feeling seen, heard, connected and very much alive and expanded. And you will have the tools to take into your relationships, your careers, and to the projects that matter to you.
Session 2 Weds July 1, 2020
How to Access our Unconscious to Gain Clarity
Begin to understand how our soul/psyche/instincts talk to us…through the super subtle sensations inside the body, via our feelings, and through the memories and thoughts that pop into our imaginations. Under the guidance of a highly trained BreakThrough Coach and Inner Parts Work Facilitator, practice dialoguing with the various inner selves within. Get to know the parts of you that desire and fear different things, causing internal conflict (the Inner Bully, the Protector, the Wounded Child, the Rebel, the Peter Pan/Puer, etc.) This work gives you the keys to nurturing your BreakThroughs by enabling you to access your unconscious to mine new information that becomes the foundation of your next BreakThrough. As you do work with your various inner selves, you are able to align their goals so that these parts of you begin to play on the same team. Our resistance is usually either these parts pushing against each other or one of our inner selves crying out against something that is out of alignment with our value. If you feel resistance in your life and long for inner harmony, then these tools will serve you well.
Session 3 Weds July 8, 2020
Healing the Mother Wound
Mother is ideally supposed to be the safe Feminine, who welcomes us warmly, with care, and shows us that we are deeply loved. When this doesn’t happen, the Mother Wound leaves an indelible mark on a man and predisposes us to experiencing the darker aspects of the feminine. The Mother Wound can also condition us to rely too heavily on women for our unmet emotional needs, setting up a toxic dynamic in relationships. I personally grew up with a mother who, bless her heart, was emotionally shut down, causing a deep attachment wound that has played out in many ways with women, from fear of intimacy to getting into abusive and addictive relationships, to fear of commitment. I’ve worked my tools around these issues for the past 20 years and have made a lot of progress, and I’m still actively working this around each new turn of the wheel. I’ve also held spaced for men to begin to heal the neglect, rejection, abandonment, engulfment, abuse, and other varieties of the Mother Wound. Learn powerful tools so we can feel cared for, so we can trust, and so we can relate to women in a healthy way.
Session 4 Weds July 15, 2020
Healing the Father Wound
Father is supposed to be the safe masculine…a man who we feel secure with, and is safe for us…who teaches us how to be a man and shows us how to be when we’re out in the world. When our father is absent, like my birth father, or abusive, like my early stepfather, or neglectful or unsafe or unavailable in a variety of ways, we get very confused messages about our worth and about how to make our way in the world. When Father shows up as the wounded man that he is, this has a very real impact on us. And yet, even when we do not have an ideal Father, we can still become amazing men…but it takes metabolizing the unmet needs in our nervous system and transforming the symptoms into powerful clarity about who we are. Learn how to work with the Father Wound so we can increase our self-esteem and feel confident to make our way in the world and accept/become the man that is possible for us to be.
Session 5 Weds July 22, 2020
Nurturing the Inner Child
Independent of working the Mother Wound and the Father Wound, we can use a powerful body of tools to help us nurture and heal the Hurt Little Boy within, who holds our unmet needs. This allows us to begin to feel safe, to feel connected, to feel valued, to live joyfully, and be an adult in relationships, instead of a boy or an adolescent. Stop unconsciously pulling the women in your life into mothering roles or the men into your life into fathering roles. Stop letting the unmet needs of your inner child or inner teen hijack your life. Rise above the neediness of your little boy or the knee-jerk rebelliousness of your inner teen. No one teaches us this stuff in school…it’s a specialized field that most people find only when their lives and relationships are suffering and their partners are threatening to leave or their life is in shambles. Don’t wait to have a BreakDown, like I did 13 years ago…instead, actively cultivate a BreakThrough. Learn how to find, feel, and nurture your inner child so that you can be a powerful, generous man who blesses others in your life.
Session 6 Weds July 29, 2020
Balancing our Inner Masculine and Inner Feminine Dynamics
The advanced work of men’s work is learning to balance the masculine and feminine within. Much pain in this world comes from men who have suppressed the natural yin within…that safe, loving energy that appreciates beauty, honors vulnerability, and holds space for others. Testosterone is powerful energy, and tempering it with a deep connection to our inner yin makes the world a safer place for everyone. We will work somatically to make a distinction between the felt sense of our inner yin and our inner yang and we will practice cycling loving energy between the two. This creates a flow of love in the body and fills up our heart space. This brings us great inner strength and a deep sense of being loved, which has many benefits in our relationships and in our careers.
Session 7 Weds Aug 5, 2020
The Power of Being in Mission and On Purpose
Being in mission and on purpose is like connecting a pair of jumper cables to a powerful battery. We are gifted with energy and vitality, enabling us to walk through initiations, at times with little sleep, from my experience, and still function at high performance. Being in mission is like eating food, drinking water, breathing air, or being in nature. It sources us. We will work to identify living our mission in the World, while staying connected to our Wildman Energy.
BONUS SESSION Fri-Sun Aug 14-16, 2020
Connecting to the earth and each other at our Wildman Gathering
Those who take the Wildman BreakThrough Online Course or Individual BreakThrough Program and who choose to attend the 2020 Wildman Gathering will gather up at least once at our live Wildman Gathering Retreat near Asheville, NC to connect and celebrate our work. The optional annual Wildman Gathering is the most exciting, cutting-edge men’s work available. Join us to experience a series of elemental Earth/Air/Fire/Water initiations, such as shamanic breathwork journeys, firewalks, and immersive water initiations. These high intensity experiences are designed to get us feeling deeply connected to the earth, our brothers, and ourselves. This brings a sense of belonging, empowerment, and inner well-being.
Your Guide for this Journey is James Mayfield Smith
BreakThrough Coach. Facilitator. Adventurer.
James Mayfield Smith is a highly-trained Somatic BreakThrough Coach and the founder of BreakThroughCircle.com. James has participated in advanced-level men's work for the past 14 years, has led over 45 transformation-focused retreats in the US and abroad and has personally facilitated over a thousand clients to transform key emotional dynamics in their lives. James discovered the healing power of men's work and inner work facilitation during a time of deep grief and shame in his own life. These tools changed his experience of himself at depth. James has a 29 year old son and an 18 year old daughter and is deeply committed to helping the world become a safer and more magically adventurous place for men, women, boys, and girls...one BreakThrough at a time. His work lives this mission.
James is a pioneer in harnessing mythic, imaginal, shamanic, somatic, and bio-energetic tools to shift one's inner landscape in ways that change the experience of outer circumstances. His specialty is working with a client’s central nervous system and somatic wisdom to cultivate a BreakThrough Moment, because experiencing a BreakThrough is the most rapid and powerful way to shift a life-long pattern. A gifted facilitator, James provides his unique genius for supporting and guiding you closer to yourself so that you can discover the transformational BreakThroughs that await you within.
Wildman BreakThrough Journey Packages
Choose from the Options Below or click HERE to schedule a FREE consultation with James to help you choose the best package for your needs:
Not Ready Yet? Save your spot with a $100 Deposit!
Save your place for this year's Wildman Gathering, Wildman online course, or Wildman Individual BreakThrough Coaching program. Pay $100 now and decide which program is best for your needs later, after discussing your options more fully with James. If the Wildman Gathering is cancelled due to COVID-19 restrictions on large gatherings, we'll refund your deposit. At this time, we fully intend to gather in the woods in mid-August!
Early Bird expires soon. $590 after May 21
$118
Per month for 5 months
OR $590 $490 until May 21
Includes:
- Ticket to the Aug 14-16, 2020 Wildman Gathering near Asheville NC
This is the most powerful and fun Men's Initiatory weekend on the planet!
- Web-Based Pre-Gathering Small Group BreakThrough Session
- Web-based Post-Gathering Small Group Integration Session
June 24-Aug 5, 2020 Tues eves 7-8:30pm CT
$177
Per month for 5 months
OR $885 $797 Upfront
Includes:
- 7 Week Live Interactive Online Course
- Structured Transformational Processes
- Two Powerful 60 minute 1-on-1 BreakThrough session
- Support from a Master Somatic BreakThrough Facilitator
- Small community of Men doing Powerful, Vulnerable Inner Work
You May Begin Immediately
$319
Per month for 5 months
OR $1,595 $1397 Upfront
Includes:
- 7 Powerful 60 minute 1-on-1 BreakThrough Facilitation sessions
- Support from a Master Somatic BreakThrough Facilitator
- Includes Digital Course of last year's course (7 sessions of video-based BreakThrough Training)
- Video content featuring Real Men doing Powerful, Vulnerable Inner Work
Enroll NOW to Begin Immediately
$497
Per month for 6 months
OR $2,982 $2,497 Upfront
Includes Everything!
-7 Powerful 60 minute 1-on-1 BreakThrough Facilitation sessions
- 7 Week Live Interactive Online Course
- Includes Digital Course of last year's course (7 sessions of video-based BreakThrough Training)
- Ticket to the Aug 14-16, 2020 Wildman Gathering
- Web-Based Pre-Gathering Small Group BreakThrough Session
- Web-based Post-Gathering Small Group Integration Session
No-Risk Money-Back Guarantee
No program, no matter how transformational, is right for everyone. There are so many healing modalities and options to choose from that it can feel scary to choose where to invest your limited time, energy, and finances. This may be a big financial decision for you right now. I respect that and am honored that you are considering this program as a potential ally on your life journey.
I prefer no-stress purchases in my life and I practice the same with you. If this program appeals to you, please join, at no risk. If you like this work and my coaching and the possibilities that open up in your life, then I look forward to our journey together. If you decide that this specific work isn't right for you, or if it isn't the right time in your life, no worries. Just let me know within 30 days and I'll refund your program fee so you can invest elsewhere to get the results you are looking for.
Because that's what I want...for you to get the results you are looking for.